Our Birthmothers

When I first called Arizona Adoption Help, I was 18 years old, expecting a baby, and looking to place my child for adoption. I found the most amazing family for my son and have never forgotten the support I had at Arizona Adoption Help. It was one of the most difficult times of my life. But with their help and reassurance, I made it through somehow. My son is now 5 years old. I have thought of him often over the years. I am married now and have two children. I’ve always felt at peace with my decision to place him for adoption and know he has a wonderful life, filled with love and opportunities. Thank you for taking care of us both during our adoption journey.

I chose adoption for my fourth child after escaping a negative relationship. I wanted to get somewhere safe, find the support I needed, and provide my children with a stable routine and environment. When Leah was born, I realized how far I had come in the last few months. All because of this little girl, she turned my life around. This choice will forever change the lives of my children and I know Baby Leah’s adoptive family as well. So much good can come out of adoption.

We are so happy to share in the journey of birth parents Ellie and Daniel, both very steady in their love to new baby boy. Their adoptive parents – Mark and Janice – spent two precious days in the hospital all together as a new family with them. Mark and Janice want their son to remember the strong foundation of love he came from. So they are naming him Jonah Daniel after his birth father. Daniel and Ellie are excited to stay connected and watch him grow.

Sixteen year old Macy is one of those mothers that inspires a great deal of pride and respect. She chose to give life and share that life to complete another family. It’s easy to get caught up in our day-to-day routines, but when you stand witness to this kind of unconditional love, it’s hard not pause and realize just how amazing adoption is.

Before I found the adoptive family for my child, It was unsettling, because I didn’t know who my baby was going to live with. Now that I know what genuine, good people they are, it’s like a weight has been lifted. That’s how perfect they are. And I don’t know what it is. I read the first page of their profile and knew they were the family. I just knew in my heart. The best thing about adoption is you choose the family. If you don’t like the first ten profiles and none connect with you, keep asking for more until you find them. I want other birthmoms to know that their child’s family is out there. Finding them can be a process, but the peace of mind I feel right now makes everything worth it.

Dear Thomas and Kim: I want to thank you for helping us place our baby boy for adoption. I feel so good about the family and believe we could not have made a better choice. They said they will be keeping his first name and I am super excited about that. Patty is so loving, caring, and intelligent. She is going to be great mom and will make sure he has all the tools he needs to be great in life. John has a funny sense of humor. He made a joke about his hair while we were meeting that reminded me of my dad, and I thought to myself, he is going to be a great role model. If it weren’t for your help and sincerely loving support, this would have never happened. I can go on knowing that my baby is loved and has the best future possible.

Thank you to everyone at Arizona Adoption Help.  Taking the time with me from day one to answer my questions and listen to my worries, you always seemed so understanding and thoughtful. You brought up things that I would have never thought to ask and never became frustrated when I harassed you daily about what the next step was. I would recommend you to anyone looking for an adoption attorney to help them go through this process. You made a difficult time seem easy and I will always be thankful for that.

It was around my twentieth birthday when I found out I was pregnant. I was scared and excited at first, but the more I thought about it, the more I became just scared and worried. I started to think about the baby. On one hand, I thought how wonderful to be the one to love and cherish my baby, but I knew being a good mom meant more than that. My boyfriend said he would help me if I wanted to keep the baby, but I knew he couldn’t. He was only 22 and didn’t have a job. We found Arizona Adoption Help and read how they represented the Birthmother and were right here in Phoenix. They helped me find the most incredible adopting family for my baby boy. The family was with me right after the baby was born, caring for him and taking pictures of all of us. The excitement and love on their faces made me realize how much all of us loved him – and always would.

I am writing this to other women out there who are pregnant and scared, like I was, and considering adoption. My sister placed a baby for adoption a couple of years ago through Arizona Adoption Help and always said what a great thing adoption was. The process is not hard. Attorney Underwood and his office help get you to doctor appointments and make sure you’re comfortable with everything along the way. I chose the family to adopt my child and talked with them throughout the entire pregnancy. They were actually with me in the delivery room when the baby was born. I wasn’t sure how I was going to feel about it all, but it was exciting and so nice to see the family meet their child for the first time. I’m really happy I chose adoption and got to know the family as well as I did. It made the whole process much easier.

Last year I found out I was pregnant. I was nineteen years old and was already bringing up a one-year-old. I knew right away that I could not take care of another baby and thought maybe I could help another family have a child. I worked with the counselor, Kris, on how to tell my friends and family about my decision. It was a lot to process, but I got through it by thinking of the family this little girl would have. I still receive pictures and letters from the adoptive family and it warms my heart to know she’s happy and so loved.

My husband and I already had four children when we discovered we were pregnant again. We were so busy and trying to be the best parents to our four children, we just didn’t know how we could possibly bring another child into our family. After many discussions, we came to the decision that we needed to be fair to the children we already had, as well as to the unborn child. We decided to look into adoption. We called Attorney Thomas Underwood’s office and were immediately put at east about the process. When we looked at profiles of families who wanted to adopt because they couldn’t have children, we instantly knew that adoption was the right choice.

Thank you so much! I can’t believe baby boy is here. You guy’s made my adoption experience something I will never forget. Thank you for the late night calls and for always listening to my worries. I am so thankful we found my child’s forever family. Thank you again. I will most definitely will stay in touch!!

Adoption is a difficult decision, one that you never expect to have to make. Once you realize there is an adoptive family out there for your child that is thinking about him or her as much as you are, you will feel a hundred times better. We bonded with the family during the pregnancy and delivery of our baby and feel it will last a lifetime. This beautiful boy brought two families together as one. When you step back and realize that adoption is impacting this many lives in a positive way, you know it’s the right thing to do. Thank you to everyone who helped us through this extraordinary process.

I really can’t thank you enough for your time and support through my adoption journey. I did not expect to receive so much care leading up to the birth of my child and after. And better than that, my child was immediately embraced by his adoptive family at the hospital. That was something I worried about, but everyone was on board with my birth plan. The nurses, hospital staff and adoptive family came together and made the experience really wonderful. Thank you for helping me plan and get through it all!

My name is Gabby and when I found out I was pregnant, there was no doubt in my heart that adoption would be the option for my baby. When the doctor told me it was a boy, the name “Nathaniel,” which means gift of God, came to me. I found Katie and Michael, the perfect family for my precious baby boy. I have such joy to this day knowing there is someone who will love him like I do and give him the things I couldn’t.

Dearest baby boy, As you are reading this, I want you to know how much love we have for you. You were brought into this world by two people who were seeking the best life for you. You were made with love and given to your parents with love. We pray that happiness is always with you and that God continues to bless you every day you are alive. We made this sacrifice for your well being and to give your parents the chance to love without limits.

Thomas, you all have been amazing and I thank you from the bottom of my heart. The adopting family are like angels to me. I never imagined a more perfect family and relationship. My son and I met for dinner with the adoptive family and the baby the night we left the hospital and my son told them how perfect they were for his little brother. We know we will never have to worry about him. Thank you for all your amazing help over the past several months.

I just placed my beautiful newborn daughter into the arms of her new family. I knew during my pregnancy that I could not give her the home she deserved and wanted more for her. Her beautiful new family has already sent pictures of her in her new home. She is where she belongs and I can go on and work on my future knowing she is loved. If you are pregnant and thinking about what you should do, I sincerely think you should consider adoption. It is a wonderful life plan for everyone concerned, especially the child.

At the age of 26 I found myself with an unplanned pregnancy. The father of the baby was out of my life. I knew abortion was not right. I felt that if I was pregnant, it was my responsibility to care for this child. I knew, however, that this child was entitled to far more than I was able to provide. I was emotional about the decision, but whenever I spoke with the adopting family, I was assured in my heart that my child would have the future I wanted her to have. I love the family who adopted my daughter. They are so full of love for me and my daughter. They have a little boy who is four years old, and who immediately claimed the baby for his own. I never thought I would be in a situation to have to make this choice, but I found out that it was a loving, courageous, unselfish decision.

When I found out I was pregnant I didn’t know what to do. I wasn’t ready to be a mother, but I knew abortion wasn’t an option for me. This child could have a family and a life. Honestly, I didn’t have a lot of support from my own family growing up. I was shuffled around a lot and never felt like I had a place or things of my own. I realized I can give those things to my child through adoption. My baby will know what it feels like to have stability and unconditional love.

Dear Adoptive Family, This has been the hardest thing I have ever done. I never imagined myself doing an adoption. Then I tried to imagine your disappointment in not being able to have a biological child of your own. I realized I have the opportunity to bless you with the greatest gift possible: a child to love. During my pregnancy, I got to know you and in my heart knew I chose the best possible parents for my child. My son now has two loving, supportive parents who will give him what I cannot. I am proud to know that you are my son’s parents.

I discovered I was pregnant when I was 31 years old and ending a three year relationship with my boyfriend. I always wanted to be a mom and looked forward to becoming pregnant; however, these were not the circumstances I anticipated. I loved my baby boy from the moment I knew I was pregnant. I loved him with all of my heart. I loved him so much, but I knew I could not give him the life he deserved. I talked it over with my family and decided that placing him for adoption was the greatest act of love I could show him. He is with Brad and Suzanne, the family I chose for him. They are loving him and giving him the life I want for him. He is my most precious joy and will always be in my heart.

After considering my options, I called Arizona Adoption Help and immediately felt better after the first phone call. The counselor Kris showed me wonderful families to choose from. Attorney Underwood helped me with some expenses for rent and food and Kim found a doctor for me. They held my hand all the way through my adoption. I chose a wonderful family for my child and will remain in contact with them as my child grows. I am happy to have found Arizona Adoption Help and feel this was the best decision for everyone.

How does a married couple explain to their family, friends and other children that they are placing a baby for adoption? We already had three children and felt our family was complete when I became pregnant. Peter and I seriously considered abortion, but when we looked at our beautiful, healthy children, we knew abortion just wasn’t right. We then considered parenting another child. For many reasons, that didn’t feel right either – especially for the three children we already had. As soon as we saw profiles of families wanting to adopt we started to feel that adoption was the right choice. We just had our baby recently and handed him to his new adoptive family. We were both surprised that we felt more joy for them than sadness for ourselves.